A Lesson In Love
February 12, 2015I can’t wait until Easter
April 2, 2015
This morning on the way to the office I heard The Script’s song Breakeven, known also as “Falling to Pieces” and I’ve attached the music video below so you can hear it too. It reminds me of a dynamic I frequently experience with couples with whom I work. Rarely are both spouses in the same place relative to the emotional adjustment that comes with divorce. One may have already done the emotional processing work and the other is just beginning. The one further along the adjustment continuum experiences the other’s pace as “dragging his feet”. The one playing catch-up is just trying to get his arms around the flood of emotions that follow the news of an impending divorce. He then experiences the other as operating at lightning speed and often says things like, “She just doesn’t care.”
If both spouses can recognize that the other may not be intentionally trying to be uncooperative and hurtful but may instead be operating at the pace that feels most reasonable and comfortable to him or her, spouses can avoid demonizing one another and some understanding can emerge. After all, “When a heart breaks, it don’t break even.”
Wishing you wisdom,
You can watch the video of Breakeven here. Lyrics are included below.
“Breakeven”
Just prayed to a God that I don’t believe in
‘Cause I got time while she got freedom
‘Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don’t break evenHer best days were some of my worst
She finally met a man that’s gonna put her first
While I’m wide awake she’s no trouble sleeping
‘Cause when a heart breaks no it don’t break even… even… noWhat am I supposed to do when the best part of me was always you?
And what am I supposed to say when I’m all choked up and you’re OK?
I’m falling to pieces, yeah,
I’m falling to piecesThey say bad things happen for a reason
But no wise words gonna stop the bleeding
‘Cause she’s moved on while I’m still grieving
And when a heart breaks no it don’t break even, even… noWhat am I gonna do when the best part of me was always you?
And what am I supposed to say when I’m all choked up and you’re OK?
I’m falling to pieces, yeah,
I’m falling to pieces, yeah,
I’m falling to pieces
(One still in love while the other one’s leaving)
I’m falling to pieces
(‘Cause when a heart breaks no it don’t break even)Oh, you got his heart and my heart and none of the pain
You took your suitcase, I took the blame.
Now I’m tryna make sense of what little remains, ooh
‘Cause you left me with no love and honour to my name.I’m still alive but I’m barely breathing
Just prayed to a God that I don’t believe in
‘Cause I got time while she got freedom
‘Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don’t break…
No, it don’t break
No, it don’t break even, noWhat am I gonna do when the best part of me was always you?
And what am I supposed to say when I’m all choked up and you’re OK?
(Oh glad you’re okay now)
I’m falling to pieces, yeah
I’m falling to pieces, yeah
(Oh I’m falling, falling)
I’m falling to pieces,
(One still in love while the other one’s leaving)
I’m falling to pieces
(‘Cause when a heart breaks, no, it don’t break even)Oh, it don’t break even no
Oh, it don’t break even no
Oh, it don’t break even no
