A recent article in the Huffington Post reveals that most divorce lawyers work hard to stay out of court when going through a divorce? Why? Well, you don’t have to practice family law for very long before realizing that the court system works well for two people involved in a car accident, who never have to see one another again after the lawsuit is over. It is spectacularly impotent when managing relationship disputes.
And since 98%–yes 98% of cases settle without the judge ever hearing any testimony or even meeting the spouses, the desire to have a judge declare one’s spouse wrong and you the wronged is almost never realized. And yet, in the traditional adversarial system, people spend a lot of time, energy and money preparing for a trial that isn’t going to happen–unless you’re a lawyer who knows better!
You can read the full article at http://www.huffingtonpost.com/j-richard-kulerski/what-do-divorce-lawyers-d_b_1252868.html. If out-of-court processes such as Collaboration and Mediation are what divorce lawyers are choosing for themselves, maybe it’s the right process for you as well.
Wishing you wisdom,
Deborah Bennett Berecz